Tuesday, April 9

Acronyms

New ones keep coming, all the time. Everyone seems to be using them, and the pop psychologists are no exception. Today I’ve learnt three more: ABC (Acknowledge, Be gentle, Correct), WYTUG (What You Think Upon Grows) and LULU (Loosen Up, Lighten Up). See Steve Goodier’s and Stephanie West Allen’s articles below.

Steve Goodier writes about the ABC method of handling mistakes. The following is an excerpt from his article 'The ABC's of Handling Mistakes'.

‘A -- Acknowledge your error and accept responsibility for it.
Don't try to fix the blame on other people or circumstances. When
you fix the blame, you never fix the problem.

‘B -- Be gentle with yourself. The game is only half over. This is
not the first mistake you ever made, nor will it be the last. You
are still a good and caring person. Besides, later you may laugh
at the blunder, so try to lighten up a bit now.

‘C -- Correct it and move on. Correcting mistakes may also mean to
make amends, if necessary. "Those who are wise don't consider it
a blessing to make no mistakes," says Wang Yang-Ming. "They
believe instead that the great virtue is the ability to correct
mistakes and to continually reinvent oneself."

Now, go make your mistakes. And though some may be no less than
spectacular, if you practice the ABC method, you'll live to
laugh about many of them.

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Steve Goodier, Publisher@LifeSupportSystem, is a professional
speaker, consultant and author of numerous books. He has become a
global voice of inspiration. Visit his site for more information,
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Life In The Comic Zone
© 2002 Stephanie West Allen

Loosen Up, Lighten Up, or LULU, for short. Let's look at the
remarkable, extraordinary, amazing LULU.

Loose Mind: Ticket To Dreams

A person in the Comic Zone has a fresh, loosened mind.
Themind of the person in the Drama Zone is inflexible,
fixed, and rigid. It thinks in locked-in ways. Only a
loose mind can support the artistry and inventiveness
of focusing on, and achieving, one's wildest dreams.

The locked-in, rut-filled mind only leads to more of
what we have had in the past. If you want to change
what you have had in the past, that mind of yours
needs to get loose. Unfetter your mind, untie it,
release it, free it. Two surefire ways to do this:
have a sense of humor, and question assumptions.

A Joking Matter

A key element of humor is the unexpected. Look at
jokes. Jokes are often based on reversal. Reversal is
an unexpected shift in the point of view of the person
hearing the joke. The listener is led down a path by
the person telling the joke and then all of a sudden
the joke switches directions -- usually bringing about
laughter.

Examples:

A Garry Shandling joke: I sold my house this week.
I thought I got a good price for it -- but it made my
landlord mad as hell.

A Woody Allen joke: I divorced my first wife because
she was so immature. I'd be in the tub taking a bath
and she would walk in whenever she felt like it and
sink my boats.

More? Go to:
http://www.romwell.com/humor/Comedians.htm

You're going one way and all of a sudden you're
somewhere else. Your mind has to jump off the path
you thought you were following to get the joke and
laugh. The unexpected has occurred and the humor
depends on the unexpected.

Sometimes we are going along one way and quite
unexpectedly life takes another direction. A sense of
humor helps you to laugh at unexpected turns in jokes
and life.

Another way of creating humor is to juxtapose
opposites. Recall the movie The Odd Couple; Felix and
Oscar were certainly opposites and did they make us
laugh. Humor comes with the contrast and the
difference.

So often, we come upon people in our life who are very
different from us. A person with a sense of humor smiles
and appreciates the differences.

A sense of humor allows people to think more
expansively; and to associate more freely, both in
relationships between ideas and between people.

Let No Assumption Go Unquestioned

Questioning assumptions is another way to loosen up
the mind. Questioning assumptions gives us more options
for behavior and thought because we examine the
assumptions and see them for what they are.

For years, couples may be operating on assumptions
they have never checked out with each other.

"I hate spinach."
"So do I."
"Why have we eaten it all these years?"
"I thought you liked it."
"I thought you liked it."

Free yourself from any spinach tyranny in your life.
Ask yourself about everything you do:

Why am I doing it this way?
Does this way make sense?
Is there a better way?
Is there a more fun way?

When we question assumptions, we then have a
choice to perhaps behave and think in new ways.
The more you question assumptions, the more you may
laugh at some silly things you may have been doing.

When a person or company becomes attuned to the
process of questioning assumptions, it will happen
with greater and greater frequency. Those burned-in
thought furrows in the mind will begin to shift, and
change, and the mind will LULU.

Cause and Effect, Or Effect And Cause, or What?

One kind of questioning assumptions is the questioning
of cause and effect relationships. We often have these
unexamined notions that A leads to B; we assume that
B happens because A happened first. We set up these
rules of cause and effect.

Turn these rules of cause and effect upside down -- get
unruly -- to see if there is any truth, or humor, there.
Where is the cause and where is the effect in these
examples?

I yell so my dog gets nervous. Or maybe I yell because
my dog is nervous, or a yelling person picks out
nervous dogs.

I cannot go out in the world and contribute because I
feel sick. Or maybe I feel sick because I do not go out
into the world and contribute my skills and talents. Or
the person who is unlikely to get involved outside
herself is likely to get sick.

The workplace is frenetic so I feel stressed. Or I feel
stressed so my workplace is frenetic. Or a
stress-prone person chooses frenetic workplaces.

Let us hear it for the assumption questioners. May they
live long, loosely, and lightly.

Little Lulu: A Role Model?

Do you remember the irrepressible, feisty, lovable
cartoon character Little Lulu? That girl had LULU
down. She questioned everything. Yes, she had a bit of
a rascal in her but most LULUers do. She had a great
sense of humor. And did she question assumptions!

Remember what she did with her dad's tie? She used
it for the tail on her kite. Her mom's lipstick? She
wrote letters with it. Remember Lulu, see if you can
find a Lulu comic book, and let her inspire you to LULU.

© 2002 Stephanie West Allen

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Stephanie West Allen, JD, is the author of 24 7 This!
The Merry Method To Accelerate Success
. Excerpts at
http://www.allen-nichols.com/success.cfm
She coaches people in using the two Merry Maxims, WYTUG
(What You Think Upon Grows) and LULU (Loosen Up, Lighten
Up), to achieve health, wealth, creativity, and harmonized
relationships. Contact her at Stephanie@allen-nichols.com.

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